Publication date: 9 April 2019
Here is what happens when your mother dies.
It’s the brightest day of summer and it’s dark outside. It’s dark in your house, dark in your room, and dark in your heart. You feel like the darkness is going to split you apart.
That’s how it feels for Tiger. It’s always been Tiger and her mother against the world. Then, on a day like any other, Tiger’s mother dies. And now it’s Tiger, alone.
Here is how you learn to make friends with the dark.
My emotions went crazy throughout the whole book, it was a rollercoaster of feels as I follow Tiger (Grace) in her journey. Thank you so much to @times.reads for sending me a copy to review. My heart is in shatters.
Dealing with death and grief is not easy, the pain comes in waves or it is a permanent storm. There are many aftermaths from losing a loved one. They will develop anxiety, depression, ptsd and such. As I have anxiety and I used to have depression, I relate to Tiger so much during her grief process. It is messy, you will be a mess, the world will be a mess. I have to applaud the author for writing such raw and candid emotions in her story and situations that are real, like in foster homes. You have a lot of different kinds of foster homes, some are like jail, some are a tad better than jail and you have Lala, who is heaven for parentless children.
Tiger is a character that mirrors many children out there who is, unfortunately, the property of the state. Tiger has a best friend, Cake. Cake is one of the best-written side character I’ve read, she is exactly what Tiger needs and I cannot applaud her friendship commitment more. She is basically stuck to Tiger during Tiger’s grief and mourning.
How to Make Friends with the Dark is split into two parts:
Before= before Tiger’s mother dies, It shows what their daily lifestyle is like and her mother’s personality and love for her daughter. Even though they are poor and her mother is overly protective of her daughter, Tiger’s mother tries to give her the best and her mother cares (maybe too much?), in a way that she cares enough for 2 parents. I suppose that could be the way of her making up to Tiger for having 1 parent? Hmmm….
After= oh gosh, this is where the dam broke and the tears unleash. This part tells the story of what happens after Tiger’s mother died. To quote the book,
“Girl, you are in the shit and you will not be getting out soon, So here’s how to make friends with the dark.”#truth
Needless to say, I cried waterworks during Tiger’s body viewing of her mother. I tried to keep it in CaUsE hOw dO yOu ReAd WiTh TeArS iN yOuR eYeS?! They came out and my heart hurts. I’m so sorry you have to go through this, Tiger. I’m so sorry to all the people out there who lost their parents at a young age. Another thing in the book that projected the mourning children truthfully is:
“Write me a letter telling me how to live for the rest of my life without you.”a long letter/book we all need
This book is a cry book, there is no other way to describe it. If you want to get hurt by the black and white pages or characters who are fictional but very much portray real people, read it. I dare you to not cry or even tear up. I think this book actually triggered me in the way that it made all my bottled up emotions spill out and I had a big cry. Not because I’ve lost a parent but rather it simply brought out all my negative and sad emotions which I’ve gathered in my heart for months. I put them there and ignored it, it came out rotten and messy. I’m glad I got it out, my heart is still heavy but at least it is lighter now.
ANDDDDD, because my swiftie heart will scream if I don’t add this in my review. *hugs Kathleen Glasgow* Thank you for adding in Taylor Swift, her song “Style” played on the radio in the book and it made Tiger happy, it made her sing along to the lyrics, “I got that red lip, classic thing that you like . . . . We never go out of style”, thanks for giving her a ray of sunshine.